5 TIPS ON HOW TO DEAL WITH A BLOGGER GIRLFRIEND

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For this week I wanted to change things up! And I’m serious about it. I took the the big risk of asking my boyfriend to write an article. How fun is it to hear a man’s perspective from time to time? And as I know many of you girls who read these articles are bloggers themselves so I hope you like this article and maybe even show it to your boyfriend! So here we go, my boyfriend’s turn:

‘The funny thing is I never realized the meaning of being a blogger boyfriend before I was asked (pushed) to write down a few ideas and points of view on the matter. In the last days I was asked numerous times if i had my piece ready and i started to realize how serious the task at hand was for me. What started as an innocent question resulted in numerous episodes reminding me to deliver the piece, not unlike how a newspaper editor asks for his content.

So who am I? I’m Sander, the boyfriend of the Queen of Jet Lags, or Noor (how I know her). After fabulously finishing her art study with straight A’s 2 years back it was announced that she was going to be a blogger and I thought: Great! She will have time to travel with me and monetize the lifestyle we lead, but little did I know the success story she was entering. Not that I resent me helping her push her ideas and concept forward; as a matter of fact, I loved it!  The enthousiasm and effort that goes into her en devour is admirable and inspirational and her work ethic contagious. So putting all jokes aside I can truly say I’m proud of her result so far and can only say that I’m looking forward to her ongoing succes story and feel honored to keep putting my 2 cents into the end result. She asked me to give advice on being the partner of a blogger, so here are 5 things to take into account when dating a blogger.

1. Speak the lingo: When Noor speaks to me about flat lays, collaborations, monetizing, half and full body shots and digital identity’s, I now can truly say I know 90% of what she is on about. However, every few months a new word will enter her vocabulary so without hesitation i usually nod and act like I know exactly what she is talking about after which I immediately and frantically look up said word to know what is up. The last word was: “knolling” which is a new word for “flat lay” which is a flat composition of items like sunglasses usually combined with a breakfast that waits for me to be eaten.

2. Have patience: Hanging out with a blogger sometimes means that time needs to be “frozen” for the perfect shot. This particularly is a test when food has arrived to a table and you are very hungry. You can not start your food before the perfect shot was taken and this can take a few tests and a few minutes, ( minutes that seem like hours for hungry men ) but my advice is.. just give her the time, it is not worth the battle, sometimes it actually means a free meal if the restaurant is clever enough to recognize the marketing value ; )

3. Learn to take a photo: You don’t have to be a Mario Testino but it does help to pick up some tips and tricks about the basic needs and rules of photography. At one point in your relationship you will be asked to take the picture and you better come prepared. I secretly went to a photography school in New York but I did not tell Noor about it (she thinks I had shows in America).  I now accept a compliment on my photography modestly and secretly think of the few hundred hours of lessons that went into it. I am of course joking about the course in New York, but do pick up on a few things if you feel like it will help you, you will be rewarded more than holding a door for her or generally being cordial if you know something on the subject.

4. Understand woman issues: Dating a blogger has many highs and perks but there are also a few things you need to understand with regards to “normal” woman issues. The following words need to be multiplied by 10 with regards to a blogger, I suggest to take cover or find shelter when the following occurs, you can for instance create a secret part in your house where you can hide when:

– she has a bad hair day  ( just leave her for 8 hours to let it cool off, dont try to “fix it” it will only get worse )

– pimples or any facial issues ( see “bad hair day” )

– running out of battery mid shoot ( this one is possible lethal.. I suggest to ALWAYS carry a spare battery, or two)

– any type of computer issues, don’t try to help if you are not a 1000% sure you know how to fix it because before you know it it is “your fault”.

– WIFI problems, JUST RUN AWAY… I REPEAT… RUN… GRAB YOUR THINGS… RUN.

5. They have “nothing to wear”: This is a common “blogger” problem, although they have 3000 items in their closet she claims to have nothing to wear, if your blogger girlfriend says she has enough clothes WORRY ABOUT HER MENTAL HEALTH, something is wrong.

But seriously if you can tackle all these issues you do have the best possible girlfriend you can wish for, always up to par with the latest trends, always receiving great upgrades and perks, free hotels and lots of gadgets and someone you can follow around the world without a boring day. I can truly say I’m proud to stand next to her in her ongoing adventures. I do carry a secret battery just in case : )

  • anoukvanberlo .

    Haha echt heel leuk geschreven! Deze ga ik sowieso aan mijn vriend laten lezen.
    Liefs Anouk

  • Love this post! Looks my future boyfriends should prepare themselves 😉

    http://www.joliejanine.com

  • Macy

    I love this!! My BF must read this hah! XOXO

  • Echt heel erg leuk geschreven, en leuk om te lezen natuurlijk! x

  • This is so cute! The last part made me laugh haha, sometimes we have so much hanging in our closet that we don’t see “it” anymore…
    http://www.ladygoldapple.com

  • Lian

    Ik reageer niet vaak op blogs, maar dit is te hilarisch! Heel grappig zo’n mannelijke kijk op deze gekke (vrouwen) wereld. Volgens mij heb je een hele lieve vriend, leuk dat hij zo enthousiast is over wat je doet!

    Ik heb er ook wel eens over gedacht om mijn vriend wat te laten bloggen (niet zoiets als dit hoor!) en denk dat we dat gewoon maar moeten proberen 😉

    Tot snel,
    Liefs Lian.

  • Alexa Land

    echt heel leuk en helemaal waar, wel fijn dat hij je inmiddels begrijpt en dat hij nu de foto’s van je kan nemen! nu ben ik alleen wel benieuwd hoe je vriend eruit ziet haha

  • Yasmine

    Aahww zo schattig hoe trots hij wel niet is op jou! I would be too, jij hebt al zoveel bereikt op zo’n korte tijd dat je zelf ook heel erg trots mag zijn!

    xo
    http://www.iamyass.blogspot.be

  • This article just made my day!!! THANK YOU man behind Queen of Jetlags! I forwarded it straight to my boyfriend 🙂 LOL!

    xx
    Vicky // The Golden Bun

  • OMG I love this! Ik weet zeker dat mijn vriend hier zich ook in herkent 😛 Super leuk om je vriend te laten schrijven Noor!

    XXX Emilie

    http://miss-confidential.com/

  • elza

    ahh this was such a fun read, loved it ! x

    CLUB AVENUE / http://club-avenue.blogspot.com / instagram

  • Hahaha, this is so hilarious! I loved the piece, seems like this guy is a keeper 😉

    Wandering Polka Dot

  • Julia

    This is a great post, it actually made me laugh outloud! 🙂 Cheers to you and your success Noor, and it was great hearing from the man who’s behind the camera a lot of the time 🙂

    xx Julia

    ExploresMore.com

  • That had me laughing out loud.

    Thanks for sharing your insights!

    LindaLibraLoca:
    Beauty, Baby and Backpacking

  • Now, that was a fun read! What a refreshing change from the usual gushing boyfriend posts.

  • Haha, superleuk om te lezen dit! 😀

  • Great read. I especially empathise with having to wait for what seems like hours before tucking into food so the blogger can get the perfect shot. I’ve both inflicted that on others and have been on the receiving end of it.

    Sarah xo | PolkaDotLemon

  • Haha, what a great post! Nr. 4 made me laugh, I can see my boyfriend nodding to every single thing you wrote there.

  • Leuk en super origineel! !!
    Xxx
    http://Www.vbnow.nl

  • sara

    Ahahah that s so funny I am going to show this article to my boyfriend 😉
    http://thefashionportrait.com/

  • Elise

    This is just the cutest, sweetest and also most spot-on article I have read regarding blogger BF/GF ! I’m definitely going to let my boyfriend read this 😉

    You’re really lucky to have such a supportive boyfriend.

    xo Elise

    https://bookscrapss.wordpress.com

  • The Fashion Panda

    I loved reading this article ! Nice to hear a boyfriends opinion 🙂

    http://www.thefashionpanda.be
    http://www.thefashionpanda.be

  • That’s hilarious! Loved this article! I’ll often get my bf to shoot my lookbooks and can relate to the whole camera battery thing, except more with memory cards! I’ll be like …”what? you ran of out of memory mid-shoot?!!!” 🙂

    http://www.beautyphd.ca

  • Kim

    Excellent post! Definitely forwarding this post along to my guy. He could definitely benefit from some of these ideas, as currently due to him not taking photos I am in a relationship with my tripod! 🙂

    Kim
    http://www.buddhachicandbuttercream.com

  • Lily

    This is a truly amazing post. I love to see the other perpective. Especially on such a professional level. It’s really sweet how you guys seem to get along with the whole situation. I bet there are loads of guys just rolling their eyes about blogging. (My flat mate for example)

    Really great post! Would love to see more stuff like that!

    Lily

  • Haha this post was super cute! Training my boyfriend to take photos. One day. Soon.

    coffeeslag

  • Haha ja heel herkenbaar dit. Mijn man doet echt zijn best maar geduld en de welbekende “women issues” zijn voor hem alsnog niet bij te houden af en toe, haha xx

    http://www.creativityandchocolate.com

  • Tamara Kalinic

    My favourite post ever <3 Tamtam loves you

  • Zoe

    This is so cute he clearly loves you soooo much!!

    ZoesSecretStyle.blogspot.co.il

  • Stefanie

    This is SO cute! 🙂

    Stefanie x
    http://lovelyfashionrose.blogspot.de/

  • Juanita

    Noor, this is amazing! I absolutely loved the article and have shared it with the girls in the office haha! x

  • Haha great article, I sent it to my boyfriend and he agree’s!

    Agnes x

    http://blvckbee.com

  • Great post, he writes wonderfully! I actually asked my boyfriend to do something similar quite a while ago but he refused 🙁

    Holly Sparkle | Petite Fashion & Lifestyle Blog

  • patrick

    This is so great! I’m laughing outloud at all of these on the list – hope to see you two again soon.

    Patrick & Emilee

  • Hahaha I loved number 2 especially. My boyfriend HATES when I make him wait for all the food to come so I can grab the classic hands above the table shot. He also gets embarrassed when everyone’s staring. Let the haters hate 🙂

    I’m a fashion and lifestyle blogger from NYC. Follow my stylish adventures at
    sustenanceandstyle.com. Also looking for bloggers to collaborate with!

    With love from NYC,

    Stephanie

  • Oh my gosh! This is so cute!! All the things he said are so so truee! <3 Nice article and amazing idea of blog post!

    Julia | juliahasch.com a blogger from Romania

  • Naomi

    I love this haha, what a wonderful post to read! xx Naomi

  • Wat leuk om te lezen zeg En die laatste woorden das echt lief!

  • This is hilarious! Perfectly written I love it a lot!
    Altrisha- uponmycurves.blogspot.co.uk

  • Amila

    Perfect idea to ask your boyfriend about it. I’ve never even thought about what it feels to be in a relationship with a blogger. Nice!

  • Susanne – Bag at You

    This is the sweetest post ever! He is so proud of you and how cool is it that you can grow together? Xx Susanne – http://bagatyou.com

  • LOVE IT! My husband will get a good laugh from this when I show him – HE CAN RELATE big time lol

  • eileen08

    My husband will totally understand your boyfriend;))

  • Hahhahaa great post! Made me smile :)) especially the wifi point. So true! hehe Grace ♥ http://www.morethanexist.co

  • Very funny and interesting post, love the honesty! Thanks for sharing!

    Prudence
    http://www.prudencepetitestyle.com

  • This is such a lovely post! Going to share it with my boyfriend now haha!

    allthatshimmers.co.uk xo

  • Esmeralda Attema

    Oh what a great post, needed to laugh by the “wifi thing”.. totally recognisable! great balanced couple so far i can say :). xx

    http://www.esmeraldaattema.com

  • haha geweldig geschreven door je vriend!

  • This is the best post i have read in ages!! Loved it! Your Boyfriend sounds pretty special too! Have just found your blog, so am looking forward to following 🙂

    http://www.beaucience.co.uk

  • Hahahaha, je vriend ziet er zo grappig uit! Echt superleuke post. Sinds een tijdje blogt mijn lief ook voor mijn blog, onder ‘The Sacred Guy’. We hadden ook het idee om een soortgelijk artikel te schrijven! Keep up the good work, Noor xxx

    http://www.thesacrecloset.com

  • rebecca

    I love this! I’m pretty sure my boyfriend feels the exact same haha 🙂 great post x

    http://www.sheintheknow.co.uk

  • Haha, I love this. Defiantly going to be a print out!

    Annabel ♥
    Mascara & Maltesers

  • This is so cute! I love this! Hahaha! x

    Blog A Girl with a Camera

    Youtube A Girl with a Camera

  • Sandra Böhm

    Love this post!! <3 ;D

  • TH

    Good boyfriend you got yourself there 😉 And very smart advice!

  • Aw great post by your boyfriend <3 I totally cracked up when he said about having patience, especially so you can take photos of your meal. My boyfriend once (jokingly) told me he could starve waiting for me to take photos of our meals so he feels your boyfriend's pain. 🙂
    I'm definitely sending this to him now to see if he agrees on the other points.

  • Really great post of your bf!! You have a very patient bf. Mine is not like that 🙁
    Love Lynda
    http://fashion-petite.blogspot.com/

  • This is such an interesting post seeing a guys perspective about blogging. Really funny yet probably very true.

    Beth x
    http://www.hellobeth.co.uk

  • Really?

    This great, although some of these situations are actually plain girl problem, they’re not reserved just for blogger. 🙂

  • Andrijana Bozic

    She is so lucky girl!

  • Sally Parker

    I love this post! ♥

    http://parkersally.blogspot.com

  • Ana-Marija Lugarić

    Love this post!!! My boyfriend agree with him totally 😉

    kaiserinfashion.blogspot.com

  • Haha this is great! I just shared this with my boyfriend as I’m sure he’ll relate to some of these 🙂

    Nikki
    http://www.thepinthemapproject.com